Sorry, I read the sidebar but the pinned topic said it had been removed. I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about this kind of thing so I'm hoping internet anonymity will help make me feel a bit better.

I've been calling myself heteroflexible for a while now because I kind of know I had a slight attraction to men. I know I'm 100% into women, 90% sure I'm into MtF women but lately I've been thinking about feminine men/femboys in the same way I think about women. I'm a 26 year old virgin, I don't know how to date hetero women let alone learning how to date LGBTQ people. I don't even know if I really am into men sexually, romantically or what. How am I supposed to know? Can I just ask someone "Yo are you into other dudes? Want to help someone who may or may not actually be into you?" like, that feels so scuzzy to think about. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings like that.

Sorry I feel like a big ball of anxiety about this, I have no idea how I'm supposed to learn about this or put it away systematically and logically. I just feel like I want to put these feelings away and file them away to deal with later but I can't. I've got college, and work and other personal shit to deal with, why can't my brain just co-operate for a while longer to drop this on me until I'm at least out of college. Like, am I actually bi/queer/pan/whatever or am I just stressed out and lonely? If I am, what then? Wear a pride pin? Try to get into contact with my local LGBT community?

Sorry if this comes off as insane, I'm having a mini-panic attack right now, almost hyperventilating from overthinking things