Let me explain. When I met my college roommate, I still thought I was straight. We very quickly became very close friends, and he’s still my best friend to this day.

But there were a few weird times where this friend of mine would go hang out with other friends or girls. He typically invited me when it was just friends, but I’m very introverted and would often say no. And when things like that happened, I had feelings of jealousy. Why does he like those people? Why is he hanging with them and not me? Is he mad at me?

At the time, it was all very strange. I had never been jealous about friends before, even if we were super close. I only ever really got jealous when it came to girls. So what the fuck?

Well I came out as bi a couple years ago and soon after it just clicked in my mind. I was totally crushing on this guy! I haven’t told him this and don’t plan to, especially because those feelings are looooong gone (love the guy, just not in that way), but it’s funny to realize in hindsight.

Do any of my fellow late bloomers have similar stories?