For the last couple weeks or so I've been very neurotic about my overal image, especially when it comes to dating (but not exclusively tho). I've been single 4 years now with no signs of it changing anytime soon.

As of now I am still in my closet. Only a close female friend who's also bi and my therapist know about this. For this reason I will be trying my luck with women exclusively. For now at least.

I am conflicted tho. If I say that I am bi, 90% of women will just bi-bye me out of existence, which is something I want to avoid, ideally. Shit's hard enough for me. And all the horror stories I've heard, even some IRL ones, make me even more hesitant. (I don't want to lose friendships over stupid reasons)

On the other hand, it kind of feels like lying, even tho I know full well it isn't.

My general plan right now is this: I won't tell unless a) directly and explicitly asked or b) I know she is bi as well. But even that I'll do with great caution because of the horror stories I've been talking about earlier.

I need your advice. I am feeling conflicted over this and I don't know what to do. I am analyzing hypotheticals at this point.