I’ve always been attracted to guys, but I’ve only been with girls. I took a leap of faith and changed my Tinder settings to both guys and girls. As a 22 year old dude who’s never done anything with another dude, this took a lot of courage. I matched with this European expat in my (kinda) conservative city, and this is my first ever match with a guy. He’s out, and is from a pretty progressive country in Europe. After chatting, turns out, he knows people I’m working with and is friends with them. I’m not “out” yet (I don’t even know what I “am”, sexually). What if he tells his circle, and it reaches my work mates? I don’t wanna be branded as anything by people, I want get to decide what I am and I don’t want anyone to treat me differently. Been really anxious about people at work knowing and treating me differently. He asked me out to get coffee, but I have no idea what to say. My anxiety isn’t helping me either folks.