Hello! I'm writing a very queer historical romance series and the first book of the series will feature a heroine who believes she is a lesbian at the start of the book and eventually realizes she likes both men and women. As a member of the queer community, I have my own experiences from which to draw, but I actually spent the first 10 years of my adult life believing I was straight before I came to understand my queer identity, so my experiences are only so helpful.

What I would really love to know, if you're willing to share, is what kind of process you went through mentally and emotionally as you uncovered this about yourself. Were you confused? Did you have that "bi-panic" moment? If so, what was going through your head? How long did it take you to fully admit to yourself or believe that you were bisexual? Were there any notable positive or negative feelings that you recall from this experience? And was there any specific moment or incident that caused you to finally understand this about yourself?

My experience with queer romance novels is that bisexual women are not well represented among them, and if I am going to try to fill that gap, I want to do it well, so I appreciate any and all help you might be willing to offer! Thank you in advance!