I feel like I am too old to worry about this (41) . As a bisexual man, I know that there are others like me but I don't normally run across bi men so I feel uncomfortable explaining my sexuality to people. I feel like my attraction to men is strong and constant, but my attraction to women is very weak at times. Most bisexual men seem to be the opposite. Sometimes , I worry that I am a fraud.

I just can't imagine spending the rest of my life with a woman. Having sex with a woman might be ok, but I don't like hookups with either gender and I especially don't think I could have one with a woman. I feel like most bi people are open to both genders romantically, so it is kinda strange to feel like I might be homoromantic.

I almost feel that by being homoromantic, it seems like I am "choosing" to be gay (but I can't help the way I feel). Sexuality shouldn't be a choice. I know most people would think I am gay if I say that I am bi. I just don't even know if bisexual is the right label for me. I feel like I really like boobs but may not even really like women all that much, which is sad to say. Like I don't look at women and think , "Oh I want to get to know her or want to kiss her". Alot of times when I see a woman , I have to convince myself I am actually attracted to her....I have never had that problem with men.

I feel like coming out to partners as bi may add a level of worry that I may leave them for women but that won't happen so I don't know if I want to say I am bi because that would make things confusing, I guess.

I am sorry. I know I am rambling. I just don't know what to do from here forward.