Liking for advice preferably from monogamous folks.

Stressed the fuck out. Thought I was becoming lesbian and was kicking my heels in the air. Am realizing that it’s all part of the bi cycle and I still like men… for now.

I want to pursue same sex serious relationships if possible but I feel like the forces of the universe and society push for opposite sex. I’m terrified of getting in a serious relationship with a girl and later down the road having the bicycle shift and I feel like I made the wrong decision.

How can I reassure myself that all that matters is the person and not their gender? I can’t help but feel like marrying a woman and marrying a man will put me on very opposite life courses. It’s a burden and a blessing.

Lastly, how do I figure out if what I really want is a straight or gay relationship?