I’m closeted bi and married. Recently I’ve found myself seemingly in-love with my best male friend. I believe him to be straight and married as well. I am not looking to cheat on my wife by any means and not looking for justification. I’m looking for ways to put out this internal fire.

We’ve been good friends for 10 years. In each others weddings, our wives are good friends, we spend a lot of time a foursome going to dinner, traveling, general friend things. But in the last year or so, I’ve started looking at him differently. My heart races when he texts me about anything. I look at him and just can’t help but notice how beautiful he is.

What do I do to get over this wall of attraction/desire/feelings? I don’t want to act on it.

Any advice is appreciated!