I am very much in love with my boyfriend of 9 months who is bisexual. I love every facet of who he is. My impression was that he chose me to be in a relationship with and he loves me. But now he is asking me to allow him to be with a man in the near future and has said I can watch. While I'm a very open minded person im also very monogamous. Since he is attracted to all genders, i dont feel that this is any different than him asking to sleep with another woman. He only likes to be top and I am happy to fulfill any sexual requests he has that only involve the two of us. But to try to help the situation, I offered that we could try to find another bi man who would want to be with both of us. (Boyfriend wants a one and done hookup with a stranger). He told me no to a threesome. That is not what he wants. So I said that whenever he is with a man I could do the same (I find women beautiful but I'm not bi). He told me no. He doesn't want me to have sex with anyone else. He just wants to be allowed to do this, but not me. I feel this is very unfair to ask of me. I am trying to honor all parts of him as a human but not allowing me the same right feels wrong. When I said that he said don't worry it's in the future, let's just enjoy life and worry about it when it happens. But I can't. I don't know if I should continue a relationship where I am destined to be hurt. My last boyfriend was also bi and although the relationship ended, this is not something he would have ever asked me to be ok with. I'm laying in bed this beautiful afternoon drinking and eating junk food and crying. I just need perspective please.