Was talking with a straight dude from a dating app (editing to add that it was FetLife, and both the guy and I knew I was NOT seeking a relationship, if that’s relevant; im a fool should’ve just said it was FetLife instead to a dating app) last night. I mentioned how if I ended up with a man, I want him to be bi/queer. For me, it’s important because you don’t deal with the heteronormativity you get from straight guys and bi guys understand where I’m coming from regarding fetishization and people saying the all too familiar “pick a side” or “it’s just a phase”. I want someone who understands what I go through and can sympathize.

This absolute fool then texts me AND I QUOTE: “Everyone wants a bi man. Till the man turn out to be full gay and leave them. I know several women who went thru that.”

When I tell you I saw red, it could’ve been a battlefield. I told him that was fucking ridiculous to say, and that straight men leave women for other women all the time, and that was a stupid argument. This fool tries to backtrack and apologize for it but too late asshole, damage is done!

Then he tells me it’s not fair for him to be judged out of a relationship criteria because he’s not bi. Like dude, you just proved my whole damn point. I have my reasons for wanting to date bi guys over straight guys (re the first paragraph - plus I’m into the kink/group sex scene), and it’s valid.

And that’s exactly why I don’t want to date straight men. It was my fault for not being more diligent about his sexuality. But hey at least we never progressed past the talking stage.