My bf (25M) and I (24F) are both bi and have been monogamous for over 6 years now. We both have experience with a mix of men, women, and non-binary people. We've always talked about wanting to branch out and bring another person into the mix for some fun, but nothing has happened naturally so far.

This weekend we met the cutest guy at a bar and ended up talking to him all night. The next day I couldn't stop thinking about how perfect of a scenario this would have been to ask the guy if he'd like to come home with us. The hard part is, we'd need our third to be bi as well, because I'd like to watch my bf with another man & he'd like to watch me with another girl.

I'm scared to post in a local r4r. We want someone around our age, cute, and someone we actually enjoy as a person. How do you navigate this?