I hope that this post does not stir up a hornet's nest but...

I am REALLY worried that this subreddit is becoming known as a place for APs to advertise that they want to adopt a baby. I know our sidebar says that we welcome all members of the adoption triad but I do not think that this is an appropriate place for potential APs come to specifically post that they are looking a baby.

I don't know about anyone else, but when I read posts from APs looking for babies or asking questions like "what adoption agency did you use and why?" or "how can we make ourselves more attractive to birthmothers?", I get short of breath and my heart starts to race. These posts bring up up a lot of negative emotions and I guess they give me mini-panic attacks. I expect to feel that way from time to time on /r/adoption but that is definitely NOT how I want to feel when I come here.

IMO, this subreddit should, first and foremost, be a safe place where birthparents can come an be supported by other birthparents.

Secondly, it should be a place where women who are considering adoption can come to get support and advice.

Thirdly, it should be a place where other members of the adoption triad can come so that they can better understand adoption from the birthparent perspective by asking us questions and sharing their experiences.

I think that we need to have a discussion on this matter and make some sort of formal resolution.

Of course, I am fully aware that I am just one person and not everyone feels the same way I do. However, I am fairly confident that if I am bothered, so are other people.

Thanks for listening! I look forward to hearing what you guys think.