I'm having trouble processing this thing that happened.

I've become friends with a local business owner of a rock climbing gym. I recently posted on social media about a depressive episode I was going through. I'm finally out of it, but y'all know how it is.

Anyway, he told me that after he saw the post, he talked to his girlfriend about it and apparently they got into an argument about me LOL

Apparently, she thinks I'm depressed because I'm not taking care of my body and he goes on to say "not to be offensive, but you're still overweight, right?" He goes on to say that he pushed back on her and told her there were other reasons for people to be depressed...

He knows that I've lost 30 pounds from getting sober, and I'm in the rock climbing gym at least 2-3 times a week working out.

I don't know why, but the fact that he said it so bluntly really hurt me. I used to have an eating disorder in my teens, and I've struggled with disordered thinking around eating off and on through my adult life.

I guess I just didn't consider myself as overweight, and now I can't help but think that everyone who sees me thinks of me in that way.

My husband is pissed and said that the business owner and his girlfriend are vain assholes and if he REALLY was trying to stick up for me, he would never have told me about the conversation in the first place. My husband said that the guy probably agrees with his girlfriend and was just trying to put it on my radar that people think I'm overweight.

Now I'm in a bit of a spiral around my body image and I'm wanting to restrict my diet and lose more weight. I've been pretty happy at my current weight for about a year, but I'd like to lose more, I just was trying to maintain for a while.. I don't know whether to use his comment/thoughts as motivation to get back to losing weight, or just say fuck him and distance myself from him. It's a little complicated, because I also run the social media and special events for the gym (unpaid because I'm a nice fucking person LOL)

I appreciate y'all reading this an any insights or encouragement you can offer.