Sorry for the text dump, but setting the right expectations is crucial:

We are a mid-30s white American couple living in Japan. We are both friendly, educated, approachable, and non-judgemental. Above all we love to laugh and have a good time.

We are looking for a sane, confident, laid-back male. A big part of what we're looking for is for someone to play with her while he watches. As the night went on her may join for MFM activities as well.

BUT we don't wanna bed the first stranger that messages us. We're looking for someone who can laugh with us, the kind of person we could see ourselves being friends with--though we admit that can be difficult until we meet, so please understand that nothing is ever guaranteed or promised if we meet.

We both like games, cooking, and singing, but we enjoy being surprised and honestly most passions are exciting and interesting to learn about.

If we click, and everyone is comfortable and interested, then we can maybe proceed from there. Could be the first meeting, could be the third, could be never. Please understand that this is very new to us, and comfort and discretion are our priority.

The male half is bi, bottom leaning, but open to various degrees of interaction (little to more than that). The female is also bi, but at the moment we are only considering men (and we are primarily looking for activities with her with interaction from him as comfortable).

Please don't expect Ken and Barbie (though the female half is actually very sexy). Similarly, we aren't demanding perfect looks (though of course that helps!). We mainly want someone that clicks on a friendship level, and making her laugh will get you much further than a six pack!

If you have any questions or want to run anything by us feel free. For something like this clear expectations and communication is key. Be honest and upfront (and respectful!) And we'll do the same.