First and foremost, hi! I’m sorry this post is long; I get wordy when I know exactly what I want out of this.

That being said, I do not want to have any sort of dynamic with someone where a foundation of mutual trust and understanding hasn’t been built. Do not message me thinking I’m going to call you Daddy by the end of the night. I won’t. It takes a minute to get to that point.

To me, being my Daddy isn’t just something I want in the bedroom. Anyone can be that type of Daddy. I want a full on caregiver type Daddy where the lifestyle isn’t just tied to the bedroom, and it takes a hell of a lot more communication and trust to get there than what you can gain in five minutes of meeting someone.

To fully trust someone enough to let them dig inside your brain and figure out exactly what makes you tick and how to use that to manipulate your mind and body…. That feels so much better than messaging someone just because you’re horny and expect them to call you Daddy after two replies.

I want the mental and emotional connection as well as that physical connection. If there’s no spark between us emotionally, the kink just… isn’t as good, I’ve learned. And usually I can tell pretty early on if there is a spark there, so I promise I won’t waste either of our times if I just don’t feel it.

That being said, I’m not looking for something serious right off the bat. I want the slow burn, the kind that incinerates everything around us until it’s just the two of us left because nothing else matters - but I know it takes a while to get there. Even though this may start out as friends with benefits, I want my partner to be open to it leading into something more, something romantic, something preferably that leads into offline.

Now. About me.

I wouldn’t call myself a full on nerd because my knowledge is pretty limited, but I’m always open to new things. I love reading, video games, some anime here and there but it’s rare I find one I’m interested in. I would love to get into board games and dnd but I haven’t had any luck finding other people to kinda take me under their wing and show me the ropes.

My interests change from one day to the next and I’m always looking for more hobbies to get into.

I haven’t really watched a lot of movies but my all time favorite is eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.

I don’t really know what I’m doing with life, to be honest. I’m a bit of a mess, but I’m a work in progress. It’s just taking me a minute to fully get my ducks in a row. Need not apply if that’s not something you’re okay with.

I just recently started a new job and it’s taken up a chunk of my mental capacity, lol. I just wanna find someone and something to help me relax.

I live in Kentucky, but I’m mostly interested in just something online for now. Maybe if things progress, we can take it real life. But I have a lot of shit going on in my life that I’m focusing on at the moment and I want to get myself in a more comfortable situation money wise before taking things real life.

I’ve got the whole witchy/alt vibe going on. Plus sized. Let me restate. I. Am. Fat. Do not message me and tell me you want a skinny, petite girl but “I could do as long as it’s just casual”. Fuck out of here.

I have several piercings and tattoos and desire more. I don’t drink or smoke or do hard drugs, but I’m a 420 participant and I’m willing to try psychedelics at some point if that’s something you’re interested in. I have a major, major drug kink. Unless you’re also into this, don’t bother. I want a partner I can smoke and trip with.

I’m honestly a bit terrible at talking about myself without someone else asking questions, but I’m an open book once we start talking to each other.

As far as partner wise goes, I’m looking for someone of any gender - I identify as panromantic demisexual - between the ages of 29-40. Please don’t message me if you’re younger - if you can’t respect that single boundary, what other boundary are you going to disrespect? 40 is my absolute upper limit. Anyone out of this age range who messages me is immediately blocked.

Being into hypnosis is a must - or at least be someone who is willing to learn about it and give it a go. I’m a sub when it comes to hypnosis, but I intend on trying my hand as a tist once I find the right sub.

While I am a switch, right now I’m leaning mostly submissive. I need a Dominant leaning switch who is actually into being a Dom(me) and isn’t going to turn into the permanent submissive of the dynamic the moment I mention I’m feeling Dominant. It’s a problem I’ve ran into too many times to count, and it gets old. Fast. I prefer Dom(mes) instead of Dom(me) leaning switches for this very reason.

I want someone I can have fun with outside of kink/sex. I guess I want a friend first and anything else second. I’d really rather not jump head first into anything sexual, but I don’t mind talking about kinks in general to start off with. It takes me a minute to get comfortable with people, and I have the tendency of coming off a bit aloof at first - but it typically doesn’t take long for me to open up.

I will block you if your first message to me has any honorific in it. I will block you if your first message is nothing but kink/sexting. I will block you if you’re younger than the age range I’ve given because you somehow think you’re going to be good enough to break that rule. I’m done beating around the bush, and I’m aware I come off as abrasive. I’m really not. I’m just trying to weed out the ones that I know won’t have a chance.

I promise I’m not as mean as I come across in this post. I’ve just been through this several times before and I now have some sort of idea as to what I’m looking for, so it goes without saying but please send more than just ‘hey :)’ if you decide to message me, at least give me a little bit of effort. Damn.

If you actually read through all of this, hi. :) I look forward to getting to know each other. But please tell me about your favorite book in your message so I know you actually did read this.

I have discord and telegram and I’m willing to give them out because I hate mobile reddit.

I’m not interested if you’re married or in a relationship. Also not interested in being with anyone who has kids.

Talk to you soon. ❤️❤️