My dick is average length, but I’m incredibly girthy. It can be a wonderful thing, but more often than not, my girth actually loses much more of a trouble than it does a benefit.

I was with a partner (AFAB) for 5 years, and every single time we had sex, it was uncomfortable for them. I love foreplay so that was zero problem, but when we got to the act itself, we had to spend so much time getting them accommodated. They found it incredibly frustrating and usually slightly painful. There was a limit to the roughness that we could do because of how large I was, which just… sucked for the both of us. It had an effect on how often we could fool around; quickies couldn’t be a thing because of the accommodation period.

They also had a small mouth, which posed its own troubles, as I’m sure you all can empathize.

It was much the same for the third person we eventually invited into our poly relationship; too big for her to comfortably fit without large amounts of work from both of us.

After I became single earlier this year, things got a bit frustrating sexually. I don’t live in a large city, so it’s much harder to find casual stuff. The few I did… it was the same issue. Tons of foreplay (I love it, and it helps), but actual sex was just so much of an issue. With one person, neither of us ever got to finish. They quit because of the pain. They were on top, they were able to control how much they took, but it was just too much.

It’s infuriating. It’s very hard to get with anyone, and the few times the opportunity has presented itself, my anatomy has been the thing that got in the way.

I mean, hell. I’m low income, so purchases are a problem. Flashlights are even an issue; the standard diameter of the brand I’ve bought from seems to be too small; the toy ends up constricting instead of being fun.

I hope this isn’t too much info or anything, it’s just something that I’ve struggled with and haven’t had anyone to tell.