I'm a Black Male who believes he has the Perfect Woman. Not Perfect by looks, or even by judgement. She's just perfect to me. We're in an age gap relationship, and amazingly, this runs smoothly! However, there's one issue that I'm having a hard time dealing with.

I'm a thick, long guy. My partner, she was intimate well before I met her, and in the beginning, we had no problem in sex. But, once her IUD came out (because I was hitting it & was cutting me) and she switched to BCP's, it just went south. My partner now doesn't want penetration... at all. She says she's just not into it, that it hurts to the point of not wanting to continue. We've tried it all, at least what she's willing to. Which has been a positive effort. Yet still, 2 months later, here we are. Every thing, I mean EVERYTHING, else in our relationship is on point. No arguing, even intimacy without sex has been done. She insists it's not me, it's truly her, and from our honest trust, I believe her. We've gone to sex shops for pocket pussys, etc. My question is, how long would you wait for your partner? I know it's not forever, this dry spell. Hell, I even have permission to play around, but I don't want that. I kinda know my answer already, but it's nice to hear the opinions of others. No bashing please. Thanks.