Encouraged by this post, a few hours ago, not wanting to steal the guy's thunder, I've decided to share my own harassment story. And yes, I do realize the closet hypocrisy of posting that logged to a mostly NSFW account. But first, a little bit of context.

​

I live in a country where the proportion of blacks to whites is somewhere around 6 to 4. The average dick in my country is around 6,5 inches. We have a bit of a black male harassment problem people are jittery to talk about, since, in wake of the recent wave of feminism (which I have absolutely nothing against), the idea that sexual harassment is about power dynamics rather than gender ones is still approached as if one's walking on eggshells. Moreover, it's usually a white woman. Sure, there are other ethnicies around here, but the muslims and asians are too tight shut in their own communities for that. And while it's somewhat true that black men around here (I can't talk for the rest of the world) tend to be bigger, that also means that on enviroments where you're surrounded by whites, women will most probably treat you like an unicorn.

My first experience with sexual harassment happened when I was around 14. Even though I was a 4'8" midget of a brat, by the time, I already had a 7" dick. Which, due to my stature, my rather large hips, and my sheer size, was simply impossible to hide. I was coming back from my therapist's by subway. By then, there wasn't many trains in circulation since the whole subway thing was still relatively new, so during the rush hour, it would be absolutely packed. I usually entered the wagon, put my backpack down, and leaned on the nearest wall. This day, I got pretty much pessed against it. And at some point I can't quite remember, another older teenager started rubbing her ass on my crotch. I panicked pretty bad, and kinda froze. She kept pressing me to the wall until a few stations forward, when she left.

It happens pretty much everyday nowdays. In the bus, trains, subway, around the streets, the bakery, name it. I have exploded once with a businesswoman-looking blonde taking pics of me once. The hard part, is that we don't have a clear way to defend ourselves in this situation most of the time. The authorities will laugh at your face. People will diminish the situation since it's a woman. There's the whole white woman fragility thing going on. They'll slap your masculinity to your face because "how dare you not be attracted to me" or "you're a man, you should be recceptive to sexual invitations all the time". They'll throw it back at you and make a scene, which will end with every single white person around taking her side. They'll try justifying it as you being the angry black man, and so on. I have two muscular, almost six feet tall cousins that are friggin' terrified of nearing white women.

What sucks about this is that when harassment happens and it's a white woman, everyone takes it seriously. When it's a black woman, people mostly dismiss it. If it's a black man? God help you, because there's almost no safe way to go about it, it will most surely blow up your face. Consent? You're not even entitled to that.