I have a big dick, but I haven’t gotten much out of this blessing. My problem is that while my sex-life has been good, I've often experienced that the women thought it was too big, either stretching too much or going in too deep. I try to be, and believe I am quite attentive and selfless in bed, so when these mismatches occur I’ve made sure they enjoy themselves in other ways.

It’s obviously a privilege, seeing as there’s no augmentation available to men in this area. Hence the fomo, as well as the feeling that I’ve wasted time with women who prefer smaller sizes and who would therefore be happier with some other guy (atleast by that metric).

My question is simply, how do I give off this ”big dick energy”, or otherwise let women know of my size in a tasteful manner? I would prefer to do it in an as classy way as possible, though traditional courtship has been quite disappointing at times, only learning about an incompatibility when you’ve already gone on plenty of dates and started catching feelings. I’m a grower so I can’t do the grey sweatpants bulge as some suggest. Is it better to go the verbal route with some fun segway onto the topic? I can’t do this dating and finding out after weeks and months that it wont work. All advice greatly appreciated!