Hello wonderful users of this subreddit!

Lately I witnessed a discord convo about how we do ban very easily in this sub, it was salty and filled with a lot of fantasies and misinformation about how this place works.

YES! We do ban a lot! Bdl is on average banning 50 users per week. That's in the upper range of other nsfw subs of similar size but we're by far not the place who bans the most.

Most of those bans are permanent and targeted against what we call "dickfishing the cat", people who misinform others in order to get something from them. Our main target by far (over 2/3rds of all bans) are profiles claiming to be women trying to get various things from men, and a secondary target (around 1/5th of bans) are profile claiming to be men of a certain size -or showing a direct effort to make our lovers believe it's the case- in order to get various other things from them (and one to one sex is way scarcer than you'd think amongst those, most seem to just be willing to wank)

Other bans are marginal, with a big chunk of temporary bans for those posting several times a week, those bans range from 15 days when it's the first time you get caught posting twice to 45 for recidivists and folks posting more than 3 times... We only go permanent when people seem to openly give no fuck of our rules and previous warnings.

A few guys seem puzzled by rule9... We added it TWO YEARS ago! When we realised we were the biggest place on earth in our dating field and this situation involved things we wanted to keep away from this world: - Sexual abuse! Yes you read it right, we didn't talk about that aspect back then, but several of our lovers faced a common issue in the sizequeen community, the random guy only getting "dicklovers" and not the specific part about a preference in terms of body type that is to us as valid as hair colour or age. We created the real deal flair to offer our lovers an extra safety: the ability to confirm their potential date was up to their expectations before getting emotionally engaged with someone that might not be what they expected. Facing a guy with a raging hard on that is not what you expect is an awkward situation that can lead to some bad things. Being that guy when you think you were cause your friends told you about an erroneous measurement method (No Kevin, the top of your small hole is not the right reference point for such measurement! YES! Real situation that we saw on this sub more than you'd think!) can also be pretty bad and humiliating. Back then we had members on both sides and two years after this rule seems to have help a lot. - Our other motivation was to fight against misinformation on size related matters. There are a lot of measuring tips online, but there's only one standard to get averages or control if condoms will fit most of the population. And most guys don't have any clue about those whilst our lovers expect something related to those... Most guys don't even follow any tips at all, they grab anything handy or giving the best looking number with no consideration for any form of science. That's specifically true in America, where a huge number of tape measures have a 10 to 20% stretch and seam allowance for ready to wear clothes retouching (now a lot of you understand why you don't get the same numbers with our standards than what you used to believe...). This misinformation was starting to be concerning with various reports of urologists telling the world about dick size related body perception issues. On that point too we are quite happy with this rule.

The most attentive amongst you probably get the fact we call it "rule9". The name is us: mods of the biggest dating place on that matter telling the world " 9 in? Lol! Prove it!" And to be honest, to this date, we barely had a handful worldwide above the 8 mark, and none of them were near the 9... And if anyone claims the contrary the standards and methods to prove us wrong are in our rules and pinned messages...

One last nice fact about it, most of our real deals found a date on their second post. Which is pretty impressive for cis males on a sex oriented dating thingie... And most of our lovers who dated real deals were pretty fulfilled of dating a guy knowing they'd have that kind of little extra guaranteed if everything else was aligned.

Hope this clarification helps some of you understand how seriously we take everyone's well being.

As always be naughty and misbehave! But do it responsibly.

Your strict but loving mod team