Hi bros, yesterday me and my parents were talking about different topics such as racism, sexism and homophobia. I thought my parents were really tolerant but actually they are not: they told me that I’m lucky and I should thank them because they would accept a gay son- isn’t that the bare minimum? After that, they started to make derogatory statements towards the lgbtq community and racist comments so i started defending both the gays and the poc even though i’m a white cis (closeted) man. Since they were really angry by then (because i called them homophobes and racist) they started calling me gay as an insult. At the moment I’m at my father’s house: at first i tried not to make it a big deal because I’m so not ready to come out but I really don’t know what to do. I’m pretty sure that they will ask me if I’m gay or not and I’m kinda used to that because many ask me the same question for my feminine voice, but as I said before I don’t want to come out, at least with them, and surely not now. I am aware that some of the comments they made towards the lgbtq community are caused by their misinformation and stereotypes but it is really not my place to educate them especially if I’m closeted. I also know that they wouldn’t try to change me or whatsoever but I still haven’t come to terms with who I am. What should I do if their questions about my sexual orientation don’t stop?

I thank you all for reading this and/or giving me this safe space to express myself. If you have any suggestion, feel free to comment!