Hi everyone, I would like some insight on this. As a woman who is exclusively attracted to men, and finds men engaging with men sexually to be erotic, I feel my ideal partner would be a bi man. While I don’t feel bad about watching gay porn or fantasies (sexual content is obviously meant for sexual consumption), I do wonder if my desire to have a bi bf is problematic. The idea of dating someone who is similarly aroused by men so we could connect on that level is very appealing to me, but I worry it would feel fetishizing or alienating for a bi man.

Knowing that some women are not into bi guys, and not having seen many openly bi men on dating apps, part of me wants to openly say I am looking for a bi partner, but I also do not want to be a chaser or make anyone feel sexualized just because of their sexuality. I know no one person speaks for the whole community but I would appreciate input. Thank you everyone!