Had an altercation with my mother in law this morning... My son is 8 weeks old, I breast feed, pump and supplement with soy formula since I can't seem to pump enough to have excess for my husband or his mother to feed him when I'm not there. I personally am not having issues with him other than he doesn't like to sleep in the bassinet. Yeah he gets a bit gassy but nothing like colic.

Well apparently when my husband and his mom watch him he acts like he has colic, he cries a lot they say he is gassy and miserable... Well, I haven't been terribly worried about him actually having colic since he seems fine with me and the pediatrician said everything was fine. He is a baby, babies get gas and they cry. Hell they cry for no real reason, they may suck in some extra air but crying isn't bad for them but it does suck to hear it and feel like you should do something, I get it.

Well I basically got attacked by my MIL telling me I'm selfish for "eating whatever I want" and must not care that my baby is in pain and might as well just formula feed if I'm just going to eat whatever I like... Basically going on about how I'm a horrible mom for not being concerned about it even though I talked to his doctor, that I shouldn't just believe the doctor and I must just "believe everything I read on Google" and not take her advice and personal experiences as to what I should do..

I'm a Ftm, I get it. I'm going to make mistakes. I can appreciate the concern for my son, but wtf? Am I wrong here? I called my lactation consultant and she thinks it's a mix of us using tap water for the formula supplement and the fact he is getting both breast milk and formula regularly As well as the fact he just wants his mommy.

I know my diet isn't great, but he is perfectly fine with me? Am I really fucking up that bad? He is gaining weight and is a very chill baby for the most part. She has really made me feel like garbage. I get she has brought it up before, and because of that I did my own research and talked to his doctor, but apparently I'm just a horrible mother.

It's gotten to feel like if he cries at all that its just a horrible thing. I brought up the cry it out method thing once, and she got so weirdly defensive saying she doesn't believe in that and if a baby is crying it's for a reason and you should be right there to take care of them.. Like.. Ok??

I off handily mentioned I felt bad giving my son about 2-3 minutes after waking up crying to see if he can self soothe and go back to sleep on his own... And that's what I get? Her going on about how horrible that method is? I felt like she was attacking me on that to tbh.

Sorry I'm ranting, this isn't the first time she has said nasty things to me.. She's usually not to bad on a daily basis but she has coddled her kids and is very much one to put extra unnecessary stress on herself and act like a fucking martyr. Idk I just feel like a shit bag right now. (Sorry for bad format I'm on a phone and don't know how to use Reddit very well)

Update: Husband is currently over fighting with his mom about it. Not really sure where it all stands....