Hello everyone, I’m having conflict with my husband and was wondering if I’m being too hard on him. He tends to go hang with his buddies to have drinks every weekend after our 9 month son goes to bed. He comes home around 1 or 2 am and often is hangover the next morning. I have two issues with this.

One, I think getting drunk every weekend is too much for a new dad. We should be spending that time together while our baby sleeps. We don’t spend much time together during the day. I would be ok with once or twice a month. He thinks it’s okay because baby is sleeping anyways but our son is not sleeping through the night and I would love his help at night. He thinks when baby is asleep his responsibility is done. If there ever was an emergency or I needed help he would not be useful.

Second, the weekends are my days to sleep in and I have a real problem with him taking care of our son while he’s hungover. He’s less attentive and doesn’t get up immediately when baby wakes up. Him being hungover interrupts my turn for much needed rest and sleep.

I’m just wondering what you all think of this. Am I being too demanding or is his behavior not normal? Especially around him wanting to go out every weekend. I haven’t had a night on the town since our son was born and don’t really think it’s fair that he gets a o go out all the time!