Hello. My baby girl just turned 2 months old and she's perfect. She doesn't fuss much unless she gets hungry or sleepy. She took a little longer than we would like to start gaining weight and get back at her birth weight so I'm always concerned about her getting enough to eat.

She normally has 9 or 10 feedings a day and 2-4 of them are bottles of expressed milk. I'm the one that's home with her and therefore I'm the one that mostly controls her feeding. But when my husband gets home, I would like to take a break and let him take over for a few hours. However I'm worried he doesn't feed her enough. Or I could just be paranoid. I always pump a few times a day so he can feed her when I need a break.

If she's sleeping, as soon as she starts fidgeting and making noises, I check if she's hungry. I normally put my knuckle towards her mouth to see if she'll start suckling. If she does forcefully, I'll wake her, change her, feed her. A lot of the time she eats every 2 hours with me.

My husband waits until she completely wakes on her own and starts crying until he'll feed her. Sometimes I'll take a walk after my husband gets home. Multiple times I told him she was fidgeting and it's been over 2 hours so he'll need to feed her soon. Virtually every time this has happened, she doesn't eat until an hour later when I'm finished walking and showered and can feed her myself.

And tonight, she was cluster feeding every hour from 5 to 8. Then she went to sleep and I was able to get some work done and pump. I was exhausted. I mentioned to my husband that I was tired but I wanted to make sure we fed her before going to bed. Well I ended up passing out before 10. My husband changed the baby and put her to bed without feeding her. She didn't wake up until 3 to eat. She went 7 hours without eating and when I changed her, she was dry. Which worries me that she is dehydrated now. I wouldn't have let myself fall asleep if I knew my husband would put her to bed hungry.

I'm going to bring it up to her pediatrician. My husband acts like I feed her more than I have to. Yesterday he told me she probably just wants a pacifier and wasn't hungry. I mean, I probably am a little paranoid because she had issues gaining weight at first. But I think if it was solely up to him to feed her, she would still have problems gaining weight.

What do you guys think?

EDIT: to be clear. My husband doesn't get up at all during the night. Nightly duties are my responsibilities. The times that he is responsible is late afternoon - evening before bed. I don't wake her up in the middle of the night. She wakes me up. It's during daytime naps that I get her up when she starts fidgeting and making noises. And I don't do it all of the time. Only if she'll start suckling on my knuckle. If she doesn't respond to my knuckle on her mouth, I leave her. However, I might be crazy, but during the day (not at night when I'm asleep) if it's been 4 hours since she last ate, I'll wake her up to feed her.