Last time my mom was here we noticed my baby had a skin rash and we talked about maybe getting an doctor’s appointment for her to check it out. So I did. And then this morning my mom messaged me “hey, just remind you to get an appointment with the doctor for the baby 😇”

maybe I’m sensitive, but it’s just really fucking irritating. It’s like she still sees me as an incompetent child. I’m the mother. If it’s something I deem important to my baby, I will do it. Honestly, she does this a lot. If I ever discuss baby related to her and will send reminders and “check” on me. Like “hey, did you buy bigger onesies for baby?” “Did you do this like we discussed last time? Did you do that?” LIKE STOP. That’s something between me and my coparent.

So as to the doctor’s appointment, I sent back “Hello, did that a while ago. You don’t need to remind me.” That was honestly the friendly version of what I had wanted to send, given how fed up i am. But she got offended. She said “I was just worried you would forget because you’re so busy these days. Everybody could be helped by a reminder. Plus I was friendly about it. Your attitude is really hard to take.”

So please tell me, am I overreacting? What do I even say to that?