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I felt compelled to write this after I read a comment the other day that a guy wrote, questioning how anyone could actually be turned on by the disgusting women on here (something to that effect). I do identify as having a Beta kink myself and I have even posted humiliating pics of myself in this reddit.
But I'm sure I'm not alone in admitting posts like that can hit at the one weak spot I have as a beta.
I've put a lot of thought into trying to define the reasoning behind this particular extreme degradation kink. For me, as an extremely submissive person, I feel this kink allows me to take certain aspects of myself that society usually considers a negative trait and turn it into a positive by allowing myself to let go of all personal ego and give someone the gift of my complete vulnerability. I'm giving the alpha an opportunity to use my weakness as a venue for expressing their dark, sadistic side in a judgement-free zone. I'm turned on by knowing that they get pleasure from the depth of my depraved submission and the extreme extent of the power exchange I consensually commit to. I can do this without damaging my psyche when I believe the insults and degradation from my alpha comes from a place of lust/pleasure rather than a place of true disgust.
The scary part of this kink for me is not ever knowing for sure from which place my partner is coming.
And that's if we go on the assumption that the people in this reddit are coming from a reasonably sane and healthy standpoint, not taking into account the truly cruel, and those who use this to further sink into their very real self loathing.
Even then, this kink provides very little aftercare when done with strangers online, and the the subdrop can be a real bitch.
In light of that truth, I've been thinking of creating a Reddit for betas to actually talk about their feelings and get support from each other, and maybe some alphas would like to provide some perspective too.
I'm curious to know if this sounds like something betas on here might be interested in. If so, feel free to comment or message me. I just know we all need support sometimes, especially in a kink that can be as raw as this one.
Thanks for all the thoughtful replies. It seems like there is some interest. I hope I wasn't coming across as just criticizing alphas who use this as an unhealthy excuse to engage in cruelty. There are also submissives in very low places who probably aren't doing themselves any favors here. But I know it can be a good outlet for many who use it responsibly. I'll check into getting a group started.
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