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Balance, though.
They're right in that not all relationships start off perfect but there are a lot of people who are willing to forgive a lot of things they really shouldn't on that premise or the idea that the other person will "get better."
It's not quite an "I can fix them!" but it's the idea that if you just model being a solid person that the other person will fall in with that. A lot of the time, people won't see that and say "I can be better," they'll say "I can make both of us worse."
It's healthy to have basic expectations of people in terms of their capacity to know themselves, to repair if there's rupture in a relationship, to be authentic, and to be interested in their own growth and to say "Hey, this isn't for me" if those things aren't there.
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I don't agree. You can solve most every problem by talking it out, the solution just may not be what you want it to be.
If you're incompatible as people, talking it out can get you to understand that and to reach the conclusion "We should not be in each other's lives" in a way that's not judgemental or blame based.