We went Saturday night and they were being really strict about the dress code (which is fine, it is what it is). They told us all shoes have to be all black and they only allow boots. They turned us away but the bouncer told us if we changed our shoes he would let us in.

We went back to our hotel, changed our shoes and got back in line at the club. We were 2 groups from the front when a guy who had been inside the club talking with the bouncers told us to follow him into the club. The bouncers let us pass the other two groups. We assumed he had worked there since he had been with the bouncers all night.

We paid our cover and then he said “you know you really owe me, I don’t think they would have let you in after you were rejected once.” And then said it was fine because “we would make it up to him”

He took us over to the coat room and he kept insisting we take our clothes off. We said no because we were already wearing nothing but lingerie (I mean it’s Kit Kat). He started to get aggressive and say we had to give him our phones for the night and we had to follow him into this sketchy private room. He then told us we were “his little r*pe slaves” for the night and he planned multiple “movies” for us to film. He then proceeded to detail all the deranged stuff he wanted to do to us and it was very obvious that he liked how uncomfortable we were.

At this point we were really wanted to leave but he had cornered us and the THE ENTIRE STAFF KNEW HIM so we didn’t feel comfortable asking for help. We were honestly scared to try and leave because we didn’t know what he would do. He continued to be aggressive and make really degrading sexual comment towards us. Eventually he got tired of us refusing told us he we had to either do as he said or he would get the bouncers to throw us out. He motioned for the bouncers but, we said we would just leave and went back outside.

I am all for kink when it is CONSENSUAL, but this guy just kept trying to manipulate us into making p*rn and forcing his kinks on us when we made it very clear we were not interested. Obviously you run into creeps wherever you go but, this was next level. What was even more concerning is the entire staff seemed to know him. They allowed him to do whatever he wanted and he had access to private areas of the club and multiple staff had stopped to talk with him and greeted him. It was very predatory and creepy, I can’t even imagine how much worse things would have been if we were already drunk or were by ourselves.

Quite upsetting for our first Kit Kat experience. We had heard so many good things about it being such a safe space and amazing place to express yourself and your sexuality without judgement or fear of predatory behaviour. We left feeling really unsafe and were honestly concerned for the other girls in the club. We couldn’t even reach out to staff about it because they all knew him and were very clearly alright with his behaviour. I don’t know if this is a common experience but, I just thought I would point it out.

EDIT: I will be contacting Kit Kat about the incident and update if I get a response

Also, since I’ve been attacked a good deal over PM and through the comments, I have a good amount of experience in the kink community and have been to sex clubs before. That being said, no matter how “naive” you are to the scene, there is no excuse for manipulation and harassment.