I'm a sadist. So imagine if I start talking here on Reddit with a masochist, and we schedule a date at the local whatever. I drive up to the local whatever and see you there, so I just walk up and punch you in the stomach. Hey, you're a masochist, right? So what's the problem?!

Alternatively, imagine if your main kinks are CNC and 24/7 free use. So imagine if we schedule a date at the local whatever, and I show up with a knife in hand, and before I even introduce myself, I grab you the throat, drag you into a back alley, and rape you. If you feel traumatized by that, just remember: You're into CNC, which means you like being raped, and you're into free use, which means I already have permission to fuck you whenever and wherever, without warning! That's how it works, right?!

If those two scenarios made you sick, and you find the dom's logic to be ludicrous on its face, well then, congratulations: You meet the absolute bare minimum criteria to be considered "not a god damned psycho."

Well, if that's how it works, then how come brats somehow get a free pass to be total fucking cunts when we haven't even scheduled a date yet? We can literally just be chatting on Discord, and she'll consistently fail to give straight answers to simple questions, sometimes giving me smartass responses and giving me the run-around, when all I'm trying to do is get to know her? Then, when I say "fuck it" and remove her as a friend on Discord, she comes back to Reddit and bitches about how I apparently can't handle a brat.

It's not that I "can't handle" a brat. It's just that we aren't in that dynamic yet, so why should I fucking HAVE TO handle a brat?!

And yet, somehow, I'm the asshole? Can somebody explain to me how that works?!