Hey Me and my partner are just starting to get into bdsm, we both like too be dominant and dominated so during sex we usually switch around about half way through, usually once she cums then its my turn. I was wondering if there ware any guides or if anybody here as any advice for people who are just starting? We have a spacer bar, handcuffs, starpon toys etc. We are both completely new too this and are still "testing" the limits so to speak. Last week we both used the spacer bar on each other and we both really enjoy ever aspect of it. I guess just any tips or advice on positions and things too do would be helpful. Were also thinking about getting a collar for choking but im not sure if this is the right toy for that? Would a belt be better?

Sorry i know its all other the place but were both very keen and admittedly "lost" when it comes to thinking of ideas

Thanks heaps