First the question, then the backstory. Tell me what you think. So the ethical dilemma is this: How much restraint do I owe a newbie who is asking for, actually insisting on, extreme acts when it appears to me she really doesn't understand just how bad it could be. And I've warned her several times that she doesn't. It doesn't involve anything life treating or permanent damage but pretty much just short of that.

So, I'm traveling for work on a regular basis to one location and my last trip up I posted a Craigslist ad to see if I could find a play partner while I'm there. The day I was leaving I got a response from a woman inquiring about it. We converse back and forth and her fantasies start to come out. Its weird emailing her because she treats email like chat. One line at a time. So I get this pointillist picture of her fantasies. Turns out her thing is that she has a long term intense fantasy of "brutal rape". But she has never done anything close to this before. She told me she has had anal three times in her life. She wants pain. She wants extreme rape and she wants extreme degradation. But as our conversation continues she would drop these little bombshells.

Her: "R u going to punch me?" Me: "I've done impact play before, sure" Her: "In the face?" Me: "You don't really want a black eye and split lip do you?" Her: "Would it get you hard to give me a black eye?"

This is how she seems to operate. Makes a suggestion of some extreme act and when I ask if she is serious she asks "Will it make you hard?". She never says "I want this" just "Will it get you excited". Its difficult to figure out what is going on in her head.

When I asked her about limits she said she doesn't really have any. She doesn't want a safeword either. When the door closes she said that no matter what happens she'll just have to take it.

So as things stand now, the list of what she wants includes:

1) Beating her very hard with belt, crop, fists pretty much everywhere including her pretty face and leave her with a black eye. 2) Piss on her and make her drink piss 3) Forcibly cut off her lovely, natural, long blonde hair with a knife 4) Make her drink until she passes out and then continue raping her before I leave

At least three of the four of these strike me as way too much for someone who's previous experience was to be tied to a bed and smacked with a crop and probably just a bad idea in general. She is very insistent on being brutalized she expresses her worry that I'm going to wimp out on her about every third email. #4 isn't really safe at all. With #1 I'm not doing impact play on anyone's face. Too much can go wrong and besides, she is really pretty and it would be a shame to mark it up. Like pissing on a Rembrandt.

I am going to play with her next trip if at all possible, the question is what exactly will I do with her. For what its worth I'm experienced enough (20 years) to know how to play safe and have a lot of self control. If not me she might pick up some dipshit wanna-be dom on Craigslist who will do her real damage. I've seen that happen to other subs who end up injured from people who have no idea what they are doing.

Thoughts?