We're two horny guys that have fun. Technically I am the Dom but I don't like to be called like that. I call myself either as the doctor or as the coach and for my sub which I also don't call him like that. I try to find a personal name. I also have high functional autism which sometimes gets in the way. For instance I need a clear definition of what's BDSM and what's abuse and grey zones irritate me. I want BDSM not abuse but at the same time BDSM causes pain.

So here's the session and I'd like to tell me if you think this is BDSM or abuse (everything is consensual).

One of our basic stories is that he fucks my wife and I'm a an angry policeman. I use handcuffs on him and he sits on a chair. His asshole is off limits (but maybe I should discuss it with him). The focus is his dick. I can squeeze his balls either with my hands or with a ball-crusher. I also threaten him that I'm gonna cut his balls and he sobs and begs me not to it. Then I have him suck my dick and I insult him. I fuck this throat but I don't slap. I edge him, sometimes I give him ruined orgasms. I give him lots of poppers until he gets dizzy and drooling. He sobs that he can't take it any more

The other common story is that he's my servant. I ask him to work out in front of me and instruct him what to do. Then i ask him to fuck him and he refuses so I grab him from his dick I put to him a cockring that's pointy on the inside and hurts him (no blood). while he's in pain and sobs I fuck his throat again. I use nipple clamps on him and electron on his dick. I threaten him that I will fry his balls. He cums from hard ballbusting or I suck him (or both).

At the end of every session I take care of him, shower him and we eat together.