I have a few personal ads posted in various subs, as a result of one of these I had a chat request from somebody looking for an age gap relationship, but not a daddy.

Which is the lead in to a conversation I seem to have a lot when discussing my kinks. That I don't really have anything (outside of not being submissive) that I would consider essential.

I enjoy being the dom side of a relationship, but vanilla is fine too (though there's likely always that aspects)

What I enjoy more than anything, is exploring, pushing and (consensually) exploiting what I find there. I have recently been poking around with r/raceplay and r/ConvertingFeminist subs, not because that specifically interests me, just because I enjoy being able to explore the mental conflict.

I enjoy the exploration of a girl's mind. To understand the how's and why's of what goes on there. To the point where I have studied psychology (I have a degree), and have spent three years training as a counsellor. (not at all related to my Engineering career)

So I"m curious whether anybody else partakes in kinks not because they explicitly enjoy them, but because the psychological / emotional aspects behind it are exciting.

The problem I have when I start into that conversation, it is often taken as "I'll do whatever you want just let me do something to you", whereas what I actually want is quite specific, and not many fit, but saying "your brain is my kink" just sounds weird!

Thoughts please!