So I will start by saying a lot of this was on me. I am known for being too patient and kind and it certainly came to bite me in the ass. TL/DR at the bottom

Back in December 2015 my fiance of 7 years cheated on me. We broke up and I moved to my parents to get my life together. I had a friends who lived nearby who I had known for 10 years at this point. Her room mate had just left and she needed someone to help take over the lease and I needed to GTFO my parents house because once you've lived on your own for 10 years living with your parents again is rather hellish. So I decided to move in help her out and help myself out. Win win

Well it starts out a bit rough this friend is extremely depressed and socially awkward. Think: standing in your doorway while you have a headset on gaming and talking to you for half an hour about their very personal problems. Not that I am a monster and don't want to help but it needs to be at a time when we are both available.

Now this depression seeps over into how this person lives their life, does not bathe more than once a month, doesn't not clean up after themselves in mutual areas, sleeps surrounded by trash. So I speak to her and let her know that I understand how depression works and that I am more than happy to help out but that i really need her to keep the common space clean. This works well for the next year and she is overall a decent room mate always takes care of her bills, is fun to hang and talk with. I do end up doing most of the cleaning in the kitchen but honestly it's not much and i'm not too worried about it.

After our year lease is up we decided to move together to a place that is closer to work for both us. She has a ton of stuff. I can pack and move my things in 4 hours it takes her a month and half partially due to volume partially due to her being lazy. So she asks if she can use the living room as her room and i'll use the master bedroom and extra bedroom for myself, I figure why not i'm usually in my room anyway and I know if I don't she will just end up with her mess in two rooms instead of just the living room. I don't know what changed but she reverted back to being completely disgusting in common areas. Like leaving dishes to mold in the sink and in her room causing a fruit fly infestation, covering the kitchen table with knick knacks and trash (hoarder style). I approach her and she says "if you don't like the time frame in which I clean up you can just do it yourself." I am livid but I keep my cool as I remember that we have been friends for over a decade and that sometimes people just have bad days and that she is extremely depressed. She comes home that day and cleans everything and keeps it clean for quite some time.

Then the shit hits the fan when her "daughter" moves to the state and needs a place to stay. Her "daughter" is 26 and my friend is 29 so its more like a mutually needy relationship where each of them is getting something from the other one. No judgement though I figure people can build whatever family they want. But its not just her daughter its her daughters son and his caregiver who is disabled.

I stated very clearly that i was opposed to this idea but my friend guilt-ed me into letting them stay for 2 weeks which becomes a month. It was uncomfortable month they are slobs and I was now cleaning up after 3 adults other than myself and a child. My friends daughter and caregiver are absolutely awful to that kid. He is home schooled and never leaves the house and is constantly on an ipad or gameboy system while they are all staring at their phones or playing video games. This kid gets 0 social interaction so he loves me and my GF because we play with him and take him outside and basically give him love and attention that his mom is not giving him. After three weeks i ask my friend when are they leaving our two bedroom apartment because with no living room it is too small for all of us. She basically freaks out and says that " you can have people over whenever you want and that it is ok and that your friends wake me up in the middle night and that they stay for as long as they want and that i am being unreasonable." For the record I had friend from CA stay one week and my sister stayed for a night and drunkenly stumbled into the living room onto my roommate because she did not realize she was there. That's it that's all the people I have ever had over because frankly with as disgusting as she lives I am embarrassed to have anyone over. Which I politely point out to her. She does not appreciate this.

But hey a week later they are all gone and things get back to normal. Well, the caregiver decides that she doesn't like living with the daughter anymore and moves back to CA. That means the son no longer has a caregiver so of course my friend invites her daughter and son to live with us. Which I am opposed to but I also don't want them in a homeless shelter as I really like the kid and I think he is suffering enough considering his mom is gigantic piece of shit.

At this point I advise my room mate that I will likely not finish this lease with her as she now has some one else to split the cost with and doesn't need me. But, I tell her that she must find someone to replace my name on the lease. So I am half assed looking around for a place when my moms boyfriend offers me to stay in his house for free while he is getting ready to sell it. This sounds great since he is never there and always at my moms which is two hours away. ( this by the way turned into a huge disaster and I no longer speak to my mother)

I won't lie I took a lot of pleasure in telling them I was leaving (this was literally 9 days before the rent was due). My friend freaked out and was like "you could have at least told me you weer filling out applications this is like no notice at all" I told her that I had prepared her about 2 months prior by saying I would not finish the lease with her and that two months is more than enough notice. Plus I had not filled out any applications a great opportunity fell into my lap and I could not pass up the opportunity to not have to play maid to two other grown ass adults and a child. If she had not taken me seriously and had not prepared for that it was not my fault. I felt bad since i knew my friends "daughter" had not paid a dime since she had moved in and my friend was footing 2/3 of all the bills. Her "daughter" meanwhile is spending all her time paying overwatch and fucking her boyfriend. Not home schooling her kid, not cleaning the filthy house, just sitting there running up the bill by having her electronic heater going at 85 all day and night. My roommate told me our electric was 300 and that i was supposed to pay a third. To which i said no fucking way i work 40 hours a week and have not changed my habits at all and our bill between the two of us used to be 100-120 a month so I'll pay $60 but not a dime extra. I am not responsible for your lazy "daughter"

Funny thing once I gave notice the house became very clean and suddenly the daughter was able to find a night job. Interesting how that worked. I made sure to get my room mate release signed since i know the carpet is ruined and the walls have stains and shit. I know that they are going to have to pay more than our initial deposit to cover the damages. What I learned here is to never move in with a friend and don't expect people to change their disgusting habits. Also I learned that when someone is severely depressed and they find another severely depressed person one thing they hate and will discard is healthy people in their life. Some people marinate in their depression. While I feel for them I can't let it affect my day to day. And for the record I offered to drive and pay for my friend to see a therapist and try to work through some of her issues she always declined. I miss my friend but I don't miss dreading going home to a smelly, dark, and disgusting home

TLDR Roommate is disgusting, forces me to live with moochers, I bail legally and have nothing to with them

EDIT* Needed to fix few misspellings and added a little more detail