I’ve never lived apart from my twin (m21) for our whole 21 years on this earth, and I can’t wait for that to finally change. My partner (m21) moved in about a year ago and my friend (m20) about 6 months ago. I’m going to list the things he’s done to try and make things easier to read as I saw another user do, but I am writing this on mobile.

• he’s addicted to weed and video games. It’s all he does. As soon as he wakes up, he goes outside to smoke, and then straight back to his room (pictured above) for video games. This is his routine the entire day. He doesn’t shower and if he does, he gets back into the same clothes he’s worn for the past few months straight. He never washes any of his clothes or towels.

• he has a dealer friend who he sneaks in and out of our backyard at exactly 10am everyday and again in the afternoon to sesh up together. We all agreed to give eachother a heads up when there’ll be people over as a courtesy, and he no longer does this. This guy practically lives here now.

• he has no job and hasn’t since before Christmas, he receives government payments fortnightly as a job searcher, and likely deals drugs with his dealing friend now. He’d been asking for money off of friends and our mother and either blowing it on weed or using it for fuel and food because he blew all his own money on weed. And video games.

• my whole life he’s never cleaned up after himself properly. Mum was neglectful and found it easier to just do it for him instead of actually taking the time to parent him and teach him how to do it properly. He was bullied a lot as a kid and I was always told by my parents to look after him, and I had been paying for his food and cleaning up after him into adulthood for a good while there until I realised it was taking a toll on me. This has all lead to him not being able to clean up after himself as you can see in the pictures.

• he never does chores although we have a chore list unless I ask him to. When he does, he never does it fully or properly. I have to turn off the internet I pay for to get him to clean his room or he flat out won’t and it gets to the state you see in the pictures. At the moment it smells sour like rotting meat, and it’s so potent that it wafts into the entire house as soon as he opens the door. There’s permanent stains on his carpet that we’ve already tried to lift because of how he keeps his room. We worry we won’t get our bond back because the real estate has pictures of his room being in that state and will likely try and get all the carpets replaced.

• when my partner and I first decided to turn off the internet (by this I mean block his devices) to get him to clean, we had turned it off before going on a 2 day camping trip. We told him we expected all the chores he’d missed the passed two weeks to be done and his room spotless when we got back. He texted me in the middle of the trip that he had done it and if I could please turn it back on. I told him I couldn’t from a distance, I have to actually be connected to the internet to do that. When I got back, he had only just started all the chores and his room. So he lied to me. This turned into a massive fight where he tried to kick my partner out because my twin is a tenant (myself too) and “has authority to” which I quickly shut down as my partner has done more for this house in one year than my twin has the entire time we’ve been here (I think around 4 years now?). He had also made our other roommate think we did this to him out of spite or to attack him. We’ve realised he only tells people what he wants them to know. He’s manipulative.

• since the big fight, we all agreed we can’t live together any longer. When my partner and I tried to talk to my twin about coordinating moving out so that no one would be stuck here with the huge cost of rent that none of us could afford without eachother, he blew up and flipped it around on us. He supposedly doesn’t want to stay for up to 12 months and he claimed we were “keeping him here” even though he signed a 12 month lease just like me. When I told him if he shoots off before we’re all financially ready, he’d be ruining our relationship forever, he just shrugged.

• he wants to live with his jobless drug dealing friend who has a toddler daughter. My twin ignores all his chores every morning, goes out and smokes and spends all day driving his friend (who has no license or car) and his daughter around if he’s not playing video games. Essentially he’s helping his friend with his responsibilities before dealing with any of his own. I suspect because his friend gives him weed in turn for his taxi services.

• he uses weed to manipulate our friend/roommate. He knows our friend had issues with abusing the substance in the past, he constantly offers him weed if he buys him food or pays for his fuel etc etc. He brags about how he’s his “bitch” and he could “easily get him if he wanted to” and then acts nice to his face. We made our friend aware of this and he no longer lets my twin use him like that anymore.

• he’s a creep who creeps on every single one of my female friends, even if they’re taken. Recently I had a friend and her partner over, my twin joined us. My partner revealed to me that before they arrived, he had said to my partner secretively that he wanted to make her partner look bad if he did anything wrong. He specifically said “if he’s late or something, I’ll make him look bad.” My partner said “so you want to sabotage their relationship?” with a very stern look and he went quiet, realising my partner wouldn’t play along with such foul games. I immediately told my friend. I actually actively warn my female friends away from him because of how foul he is.

I could go on forever. And I’m heartbroken. And extremely stressed. It’ll likely be a while yet before any of us can part ways as none of us are financially ready yet.