I helped my adult nephew move back into Arizona from California. I’m 35F and he’s 29M.

My brother passed away and left behind a lot of kids. Most were adults before he passed, but they sort of lack the necessary mindset to live on their own with a good foundation.

My father passed away well into my adult years and I’ve managed to share similar foundation problems with living.

I live in a one bedroom apartment and I just rearranged my place once again to make it fit two adults under one roof.

I gave him my one bedroom to live in while I transformed my living room into my bedroom. I moved some clothes to my new bedroom and I even have a at home workstation for my office job.

Now, he’s living arrangement was to help him save money, get a job, stay away from his ex (reason why he had to move), and move out. I told him one year.

During the 8 months, he was drinking excessively, partying, coming home late, broke things of mine, and damaged my ride. I had to fix or throw things away and been living with this problem. I forced my hand by saying he had to move out now, but didn’t.

It’s about ten or eleven months now since he’s moved in and I’m sitting here feeling dumb for letting this happen in the first place. I’ve bought everything to provide and he has not save one red cent.

I’ve given my money, time, home, rest, love, and worry to this kid and I can’t seem to understand why he just can’t see his errors after constant pointing out what he’s doing.

I have family members that have told me to kick him out.

Thanks for listening.