Me (24f) and my roommate (25nb) have lived together just shy of 5 years. This isn't wholly relevant, but we've been friends since 7th grade and have known each other since kindergarten. We don't have too many problems in our apartment w one another, but they do exist. In recent memory, I've brought up two problems to them to be met with what I consider as an extremely dismissive response.

In June of this year, I brought it up to them that they had been leaving the lights on in the public space and in their room consistently. Their first response was, "You leave your fan in your room on," to which I replied, "I'll stop then, but this isn't about the fan and I don't want to argue. Turn the lights off." I left it there, since I've been known in the past to lose my patience when I'm explaining something to someone and they keep pushing back without accepting anything. They did start turning the lights off with few reminders needed, but their dismissive response stuck in the back of my mind.

Flash to September. I started noticing that during their shift, they would leave the litter box each day to fill and would sometimes empty it the day my shift would start. I say sometimes because if the litter box is full and it is my shift, I will empty it because it's unsanitary for our cats and also gross. The last 4 weeks, 3 of them have been like this where I've noticed the litter box filling up Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday (on their alternate week), only to still be full on the day my shift should start. Today I told them I'd noticed it this week and last and that I just needed them to do their job with the litter. They said they've been doing it, but I know for a fact they haven't been.

I'm to the point with the dismissive nature that I think I'd just like to move out. I only listed two times this has occurred but they are not the first instances. I'm not perfect either, and for a time I was stubborn about the fact that I smoked flower, even though my roommate asked me to switch to another, less irritating and potent product.

I guess the title says it all, in regards to the type of advice/support I'm looking for, but if you have questions pertaining to context, please shoot em in the comments and I'll answer promptly.

TLDR: I'm perceiving that my roommate has a dismissive nature toward me when I bring up problems regarding care for the house, such as leaving the lights on or taking care of the animals hygiene.