I’ve personally been through this with a partner and I’m seeing it so much around me: one partner, usually a woman, expresses feelings to their partner, usually a man, and that partner tries to help or fix it by proposing a solution. Feelings are not problems to be solved and it feels dismissive and hurtful to have your partner tell you either; you don’t feel this way, you’re wrong for feeling this way, you shouldn’t feel this way, I will fix it, I’m just trying to help. Dude, you’re not helping! If he’d just acknowledged her feelings instead of trying to fix her, that nonsensical fight would never have happened.

I think both of them could be better at communicating and I’m not going to call them names or anything because I don’t know them irl but it does feel like that’s an easy fix.

Thanks for reading, I feel better.