We’re both at college so these should be our prime horny years, I do find her attractive but she has previously told me about bodycount and guys shes fucked which turns me off a lot.

At the start of our relationship she told me she doesn’t kiss on the 1st date which I respected, we kissed 2nd date and 3rd date I was touching her through her clothes but she said she doesn’t want to fuck me. 2 weeks after that we go to the club and when we come back, just as we are about to fuck, she says “The last guy I was with ripped it” which made me feel insecure and I’m not sure why she told me that. After that whiskey dick I couldn’t get hard so we went to sleep.

I also know a couple of people who have fucked her (College campus) and it’s such a turn off to know that they just hit and quit, she says she has some trauma from these guys but it makes me feel like she thinks about them sometimes as their names get brought up every now and then.

I’m not too unexperienced but she has a lot more sexual partners than me which does make me feel a bit insecure, we currently just make each other cum by oral but Im missing that soul bond type connection like from sex.

Im not sure exactly why but I just can’t see myself having sex with her, which makes me honestly sad as we’ve spent so much time together and I love her. She’s been very patient but at this point I feel like it’s not good for both of us. Any help?

TL;DR : Me 22m and 20f have been dating 3-4 months, have had sex 1-2 times only but make each other cum from oral nearly every day, love each other but I just find it hard to maintain an erection when we’re about to have sex due to insecurity/over thinking.