Hello all.

I am a frequent lurker, as i am pretty much textbook average in size, and have dealt with anxiety for many years.

I would like to share a story from my past that i think of from time to time, to help myself with calming my anxiety, and bringing me back to some sort of reality.

Around the turn of the millennium , early 2000's, one of my close friends found out his girlfriend had been cheating on him for close to two years, it hurt me pretty bad too, as i was pretty close with his girlfriend and i had no idea that this was happening. My friend was a very good looking and fit guy, not super tall (about average) but he was confident, earning good money, and REALLY popular with women. It was also rumored that he had a decent sized cock ( not hung, but above average at the very least).

Several years later, after all the dust had settled and everyone had moved on with their lives, i happened to reconnect with my friends old girlfriend, after we met by chance while i was on vacation in France. We got talking, and ended up being more in regular contact again, she was regretful of hurting my friend so i didn't mind getting a chance to catch up with her, and find out how she had been doing.

Now, to the part that matters. I asked her about the guy she had been cheating on my friend with, and she told me that they hadn't managed to have a successful relationship because of his insecurity, turns out this guy was pretty average sized and he had a pretty bad hang up about it, and his constant anxiety about his size not being enough, had broken her to the point where she wasn't attracted to him anymore. Turns out she was cheating on my friend because he was emotionally distant with her behind closed doors, and this other guy had been giving her more intimacy and loving her.

Its a pretty messy situation, but it taught me something valuable. This guy who she was cheating with, she told me, that before his anxiety over his size consumed the relationship, she would have married him and moved anywhere in the world with him that he wanted to because she was so in love with him. So here's the kicker...

This guy was average looks, average build, she told me he had an average cock (smaller than my friends) , according to her was pretty socially awkward, but despite that she chose to throw away a relationship with my friend, who had a bigger dick, more money, very good looking, fit body, charisma, and was super popular with women, because this other guy was treating her better than my friend.

She would have spent her life with this guy if he hadn't fucked up the relationship with his anxiety. In the end, me and my friends ex didn't stay in regular contact, i think there was just too much history for us to be friends again, and i felt it would be too disrespectful to my friend for me to stay in contact with her.

It taught me that a guy with an average sized cock, can have what he wants, as long as he's a genuine guy with a good heart, that treats his woman well and shows her intimacy and love.

It also taught me that guys with above average, and even guys with big dicks, can get cheated on with guys with smaller dicks than theirs. Its not the dick that the women are cheating for, its who the guy is, and how he makes her feel, how he makes her feel about herself, the love, and the care he gives her.

It may seem pretty weird for me to find some wisdom from such a bad situation like that, but after looking back at the situation retrospectively , and dealing with my own size anxieties, having this knowledge has helped me to keep things in perspective when my anxiety starts to spiral and i am feeling worthless.

Have a good day everyone.