I recently ended an almost two year relationship with someone who is non-autistic. We had quite a few conflicts about miscommunication and them not understanding how I communicate as an autistic person. About how I try to be direct without being blunt, but I don’t like to use ‘innuendos’ or make them guess what I’m trying to say. I hate passive aggressiveness because it’s not crystal clear or direct communication.

And they would expect me to guess what they want based on phrases I was supposed to decipher. Then they’d get upset when I wouldn’t decipher their indirect phrases.

When I had vented to my sister about a lot of their behavior post-break up, apparently a lot of what they did was gaslighting as well. I don’t plan on seeking out a partner anytime soon, I want to be by myself for a little bit, but in the future when I am ready, is it okay for me as an autistic person to prefer to date another autistic person?