Beginning to understand my own red flags of communication with undereducated people...

I say I don't have the spoons, but I don't have the spoons to repeat myself in ways that make me sound like I'm the asshole.

When really, I am.

I want things to be easier than other are making it, and although they "reassure me the reason they ask me to do things the way 'they' do them is because it's (fill in the toxic, dysfunctional, outdated, classic, patriarchy, or matriarchy mumbo jumbo that I'm supposed to listen to because I'm young and they're old, or because they're established so they have been around since, or they have $$ and they can pay for/off) but I get so riled up when faced with Nay Sayers.

So much so that I gave up on my hopes and dreams 😕😥

I let other people's opinions of me get between me and my thoughts of myself 😭

No more!

Now when people tell me "you don't know what you're talking about, that's stupid." I am now beginning to understand it's rhetorical.

Even if most people disagree with what I have to share, it's historically evident I'm able to agree to disagree. THIS is the beauty of having an opinion.

Something I was nearly stripped of as child and something I cherish now as an AuDHD adult.

Because I was raised without an opinion, I am a highly anxious person; "People Pleaser in Recovery" Al-Anon for 7 years, and I'm still learning about codependency.

When I talk about others I have a sharp tongue- I have a goal to support ourselves and others in our time of need with words of encouragement and affection ❤️ If we are unable - We ask for a moment to vent, and then replenish the negatives with 3 to 10 positive points 💕

For this I'm received as strange because I make THIS effort.

The most challenging of all, because I put in an effort, when I don't do well other people notice!

I pride myself in my communication efforts, and when I have an "off week" I can really do some damage to my support group/job/reputation...

I think when I find myself emotionally overwhelmed, I should avoid making any big decisions...and/or speak to people who lack the language tools to replenish my energy when I'm tired (the 3 to 10 nice thing after they complain for 10 min).

I refuse to be people's dumping grounds 🥰

What are some things you do to hold energy boundaries? Self care?