I'm looking for a serious, long-term partner—someone brainy and honest and capable of emotional and physical intensity, whom I can adore and who will adore me.

I am fat, fair, and forty-nine, with hip-length hair and a ready tongue. My home and my heart are shared with a playful tomcat of a man who fits me like a glove. I'm not looking for a replacement. I'm simply a two-glove kind of girl. I'm also an utter wanton with broad tastes and an enormous appetite. (You can check my post history if you're not sure what that means.) When I love, I love like Eros left a bolt in my chest, beyond all hope of escape or moderation. When I play it's without hesitation or expectation. Joy doesn't require justification.

The fella I'm seeking will have a strong will and a strong sense of who he is, be deeply egalitarian everywhere else and willing to take the lead in bed, value both reason and compassion, and understand that I can belong utterly to my own ones and be completely free at the same time. He will have a quick, complex mind and a lusty disposition. Something that he does or creates with his mind and/or hands will light him up from the inside. And he'll be willing to go out and look for ways to make life fun. (I don't do that enough, and I'm trying to get better at it.)

Things I don't care about: how much melanin is in your skin, who your mother prays to, what part of the world your ancestors inhabited in the 15th century, whether you're an autodidact or have advanced degrees, how many other people you have been or intend to be naked with, what kind of genitals those people have, how old you are (so long as you are an adult, obviously), and whether you're single or polyamorous or just an unabashed libertine. . .and most other things, honestly. I'm a pretty laid-back chick. If I didn't mention it above, it's probably not a deal-breaker.

I'm Gearewe on Fetlife and kik, and you can see some recent terrible selfies on Imgur. If you think we might be a good match, send me a message here or hit me up on kik. (I don't like Reddit's chat function and won't notice if you use it.) Tell me why you think we should get to know each other. I'm going to get a lot of messages saying, "Hi," or, "Sup?" or "Here's a picture of my penis!", and I don't have time to sift through them all trying to find the three that are from people who might actually fit the bill. Give me something to go on.