I just have been sitting here thinking about dating in my 40’s, dating apps, people, and the reality of it all and here is what I have come up with.

I value real authenticity in a person. Deep meaningful conversation, be real about yourself, what your plans are, goals, dreams, and such and don’t be afraid to share them.

I do have a type. Curvy (yes I realize that is a wide array) hourglass figure, but who knows the value of health in her life. Height is always relative. Confident and self aware, witty, genuine, globally aware, driven (personally and professionally), open minded, sense of wonder and adventure, smack talker and receiver.

For me I am an old school confident (not cocky) gentleman who still says yes ma’am and no ma’am, still holds doors open for people, believes in tipping generously when its called for, craves intellectual stimulation, is an observer of the human condition (if you need to ask then you aren’t one), loves the latest documentary or streaming series that challenges the mind. I love the outdoors and soaking up vitamin D. I have a travel bucket list that I want to accomplish. My children are grown and I don’t want to start over.

Right now dating feels like a job interview, it seems like “What can you bring to the table to keep me interested in you?” We should be about how can we as two people make a beautiful relationship by being compliments to each other. When did this disappear out of dating?

Before the trolls show up on this post, I am not a hobbit, ugly, or damaged in any way but felt compelled to post here to see if there were any like minded souls out in the universal cosmic soup.