What do you do to take care of your own (emotional) needs? I've made a list of needs I have that are not being met in my relationship when my DA detaches/avoids me. Any advice on how to take care of them, on my own or with others, but without compromising the relationship?

1. Playing and laughing, just being silly
2. Getting to know new people, new experiences
3. Sharing my everyday life, having someone know exactly what is going on
4. Comfort and support when it's just too much

I see that especially number 4 (and maybe 3) can be difficult while still maintaining the relationship with my DA as the closest relationship I have. Are there any good techniques for self support?

My strategy has been to go zombie myself and suppress these needs, but I can't keep doing that, it just makes me feel dead inside. I'm secure but slightly AP.