Measures

Anxiety * I'm afraid that other people may abandon me. * I often worry that other people do not really care for me. * I worry that others won't care about me as much as I care about them.

Avoidance * I usually discuss my problems and concerns with others. * I find it easy to depend on others. * I don't feel comfortable opening up to others. * I prefer not to show others how I feel deep down. * I talk things over with people. * It helps to turn to people in times of need.

The avoidance measures are ambiguous, as they are domain specific.

Even in a specific instance (substitute romantic partner for others) the type of problem, area of dependence come into play.

I have no difficulty talking about my chainsaw problems, or my difficulty in getting along with my boss. I have little difficulty talking about my childhood trauma. I have more difficulty talking about my feelings of sexual inadequacy, identity.

There are domain issues with who you are talking to. If my partner knows nothing about chainsaws, there is little point in having a discussion. If my friend is ace, this is little point in talking about my sex life, unless I want the ace viewpoint.