Well, some of the best parts of me. The fun bits are for privileged eyes only ;)

Heelllooo wonderful people of R4R!!!!

So, last time I was here I asked if anyone would be interested in a charisma/social skills guide from a former introvert.

Quite a few people have hit me up and asked me to, so here I am, sharing my knowledge with the people i like most: you guys 👉👉 (I stopped playing God of War for this, so you better be appreciative 😉)

Also, speaking to a good amount of the women here, some of you guys are looking like this out here: https://imgur.com/a/y5GKhsn

Now you know I love you too much to see you down bad out here. So I'm gonna teach you how to be cool 😎

(Note: this is an actual, kind-of-helpful guide and so its gonna be a VERY long.)

TL;DR: They who know themselves, master themselves. If you can master yourself, you can mold yourself into the ideal version of you. You're worth the effort.

I'm going to break this up into sections and post 1-2 a week: self image, the image you project, taking action, taking interest, & conversation skills. I'm also going to do one on physicality and dealing with rejection.

We'll start with the most important piece. The piece de resistance. The piece that, if you dont have it, the rest of it all crumbles to nothingness: self-image, also known as self-esteem.

As a man/woman thinketh, so is he/she. Your perception of self is the most important thing, because what you believe yourself to be, is how you're going to carry yourself and interact with the world around you. If you believe you're ugly/unworthy/unconfident, you'll project that self-view to others.

The world treats you how you treat yourself, so be kind.

This is gonna get deep y'all. Whos up for some R4R therapy?!?!?!

The first step in doing this is recognizing the roots. The roots to your insecurity, anxiety, your depression (not clinical), etc. We often look as those things as the roots themselves, but they're actually the fruit grown from tree of your past traumas, and you'll have to pull it up by it's roots to be cured.

When you do this, you'll realize that its not a problem inherent to YOU, but rather programming done over years by things that were done or said to you.

Once you recognize that your inability to speak up for yourself comes from your abusive parent/authority figure/peers shutting down your efforts to stand up for yourself, and not that you're not worth standing up for, you'll free yourself from that shackle on your mind, and enable yourself to take active steps towards doing exactly that.

Its not to place blame per se, but more to allow your conscious and sub-conscious minds to relieve yourself of the burden of fault. Everything that happened to you isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility in how you respond and grow past it.

Nobody's probably told you this, so allow me:

THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.

You're not faulty. You're not a failure. You're not ugly, or stupid, or cowardly, etc.

You are good. You are worth loving, and being loved. You are beautiful. You are worthwhile.

Got it? Good. Now that you know some of the base characteristics of what you are, its time to decide the rest, and who you want to be.

Do you want to be kind? Loyal? Honest? Charismatic? Funny? Your decision.

Since there's nothing wrong with you, and you're beautiful, good, and worthwhile, you can mold yourself into any shape you want.

All you have to do is figure out what that is, find out what steps are necessary to develop those qualities, and do them.

I find the best combination is confident, intelligent, assertive, attentive, funny, fit, stylish, kind, and considerate.

I'm going to use those as the base "build" if you will, for future posts. I'm betting most of us here want a sexy, freaky, intelligent partner to spend both our night and daytime hours with.

If you can be all those things, you'll never want for affection or attention again. Guaranteed.

Whew. My fingers hurt. I know your eyes got a workout. Hopefully, I gave your mind a nice jog as well (see what I did there?).

I know this is more of a personal development thing, but in my journey, I realized that it's not enough to just know social cues and whatnot.

If you really want to be magnetic, attractive, carry yourself in a confident way, and have things to say that people want to listen to, you have to feel that you are those things first so you can embody them.

It's a process, but I swear it pays dividends in every area of your life.

What's next? You may ask, how do we develop those qualities we want in ourselves? What was the point of doing a social skills guide with no actual social skills? Well, true believer...FIND OUT NEXT WEEK ON THE NEXT EPISODE OF DRAGONBALL Z!!!!!.