I may have slightly exaggerated BUTT(you know why we're all here..) It's pretty important.

What's up y'all! It's ya boi back again to engage with the best crowd of lovely, beautiful degenerates on the interwebs!

I had an interesting conversation in my DM's, and it prompted this...prompt?

Anyway, it was posited that average/under-average guys shouldn't be too confident in their ability to pull. This refers to people (this was specifically about guys, but I'll group the ladies in too, because equality) who rank somewhere between a '5 -7' on the attractiveness scale.

Now, let's get one thing straight off the bat: beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.

That being said, this person rated me right under a "7" (which we know is cap, because I'm a 10000/10 ;) This was due to some asymmetrical facial features. They inferred I would be able to catch a "chubby 5 at best".

To this, I say, BAH!

I can pull at LEAST a pudgy 6.

I posited that many factors play into attraction: personality, character, sense of humor, hobbies, and of course, looks. Everyone has a different set of stats in each of these characteristics that make up attractiveness.

This person (great person btw), posited that to obtain a certain standard of woman, a "baddie", a man needs to have a few things: 1. Money 2. Credit 3. Face & Body. If you don't have those, you're stuck settling for "below average" partners, and shouldn't aim any higher or feel like you should be able to.

I reminded this absolute gem of a human that attraction between the sexes share some overlap, but that there are some key differences that, fortunately for us men, can make up for a discrepancy in the looks department.

Men are typically visually driven. Guys, you ever see THAT girl walk by? You know the one. Long legs, cute face, slim waist, draggin' a wagon in the back? You have. We all have.

Do you remember how your neck hurt after turning back to whatever you were doing before you caught whiplash to catch a look? That's how attraction works. We're drawn in by our eyes and fed with the other boring stuff (affection, personality, blah bleh) later.

Ladies, on the other hand, work just a touch differently. Women are also driven heavily by appearance and physical attraction, but things like charisma, charm, intelligence, ambition, and the magic word: CONFIDENCE, factor heavily into what draws a sexy senorita to you past your initial visage.

Now, my virtual friend has a point: you have to be the thing you're asking for. You can't be an out-of-shape, ungroomed, smelly, socially awkward dude who spends all his time on Reddit and have a Playboy model on your arm (sorry guys).

However, I don't think that one's confidence, or rather, self-esteem should be tied to external validation or arbitrary external factors. I still think your humanity has value.

You should see yourself as capable to do what you wanna do in this life. Myself, my confidence is Teflon. I can do ANYTHING, & ANYONE, and you can't tell me different.

Now, the reality of that may not be ideal: there's someone for everyone, but no one is for everyone.

That being said, in my mind, I can bag the Dutchess of Sussex if I got past the royal guard. I could make Doja Cat's face hurt from smiling so much. There's NOTHING I can't do.

This brings me to you guys. Everyone here is looking for someone. Whether that be for some sexy fun times, a relationship, or a human connection that also includes steamy hot nude romps (your's truly), we all have those things that make us hit smash or pass on someone.

There are a lot of VERY lovely and attractive ladies here (s/o to u/cupokelly, u/Kitty-kat331, and a few others). There are a few cool dudes here too (seriously guys, stop with the dick pics PLEASE. I'm gonna address THAT in another post probably.) I want to know what you all think.

Does, or should, one's looks/social status/money/weight determine the way they view themselves and their potential in the dating marketplace, or even life itself?

What makes a guy/girl a "baddie", or "hot" for you? I'll share mine in the comments (this is way too long already)

Also, what makes someone THAT person for you? I wanna know all you guys' types!

Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Sorry for the wall of text. I hate novels, but I love writing them apparently.

Here's your reward for sticking all the way through my stream of consciousness rambling (especially that guy who told me my face is asymmetrical. Eat a fat one. I'm beautiful Mayne):

https://imgur.com/a/EEUezLo