I'm looking for a fwb or play partner around my age or older. I'm a 6 ft tall hairy tattooed and pierced bear. I have a beard and long wavy hair.

There's a way to get to know eachother, even with fwbs. You can't skip steps.

First you tell me your name and I tell you mine. We chat a bit.

Then we go on a date. Coffee or drinks. More or less dates may be needed. It's to gauge chemistry and compatibility.

Then when we are both actually feeling the same way, then we do the kinky sex stuff. Most people try to skip the first 2 steps.

I'm dead serious, people want to fuck immediately and they haven't even met me or told me their name.

Or we do talk but we get stuck on step 2 of talking and they just want to message me sporadically to jack off but never actually meet in real life.

I'm looking for someone who really does want a kinky ftm fwb, not just endless chat and wanking. But I don't want someone who wants to screw on the first message, that feels rather impersonal like they'd fuck anything that walks. I need to actually get to know you a bit before I feel attraction.

I drive, I prefer you host. I could get hotels in a few months but not right now. I don't fuck in public bathrooms or the woods, and I get asked to often enough that sadly I have to specify that I like to have sex in a legit room with a bed.

I like to get to know you as a whole person outside of the sexual dimensions. I'm a silly goofy goth sadomasochist intellectual. I like to read, watch horror movies, and paint. I'm also very good at giving massages and I have my own massage table.